Some of these lessons can take years to really sink in. It will take a lot of life experiences to acknowledge the lessons and accept the lessons.
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Don’t chase the money
Don’t chase the money or take someone else’s idea of success as your own.
Don’t get me wrong – making money is great, but money isn’t everything. Money doesn’t correlate with inner peace and making a lot of money doesn’t mean you’re going to be happy.
Having conversations about money is important, but don’t feel like you have to hit certain numbers each month. You don’t need to hit a certain milestone to be worthy of others or worthy of their intention in life just to make sales in your business.
2. Stop putting people on a pedestal.
People are just human, and you are you. We all have insecurities, and we all have flaws.
It’s easy to put people up on a pedestal because sometimes people only show you the good parts of their life. When you put people up on a pedestal, it ends up hurting you in the process because you have this idea of who they are. Often, it ends up not being a good outcome.
Be aware. Check-in with yourself to remind yourself that you don’t see everything in someone’s life.
3. Define your own success.
If you’re in the online coaching industry or the online marketing industry, success often means having a lot of money. It often means having a six-figure business, having multiple six-figure businesses, having a team, or having all of these things.
I’ll be honest – I have not hit the six-figure mark, but I have accomplished a lot of things in my life, and I am happy. I feel grateful to wake up in the morning. Every day, I’m able to work on projects without worrying about money, without worrying about things all the time. To me, that’s what success feels like.
Success feels like peace; it feels like clarity; it feels like me giving the space to express myself. It’s me knowing that things are going to be okay and that everything is going to turn out fine. It means being able to hang out with my friends. It means being able to take naps whenever I want. It means not having to take on client calls or do client work.
Success is building the life and the business that you want. It’s having the business model that works for you. The best business model that’s going to work for you is the one that you actually enjoy doing so you don’t have to do what everyone else is doing. It’s completely okay to do your own thing, and trust that things are going to work out.
4. Be okay with moving at your own pace.
Learn to be okay with moving at your own pace, and stop worrying if you’re moving fast enough. Don’t compare your life or your business to anyone else’s. You might feel like you have to hit a certain goal by a certain time in your life, but you don’t. Life life on your own terms.
It’s been four years since I quit my job. The first two years, I struggled with mindset. I struggled with my mental health. I struggled with my confidence. I had to learn to do the inner work, do the healing, set boundaries, and do all of the things. I used to compare my business to someone else’s and think, “Why am I moving so slow? Does that mean that I’m not good enough? Does that mean that I’m not smart enough? Does that mean that I’m not cut out for it?”
Now, I’m at a place in my life where I’m happy. I get to wake up whenever I want. I get to do things whenever I want. If I want to take projects off my plate, I can. If I want to add projects to my plate, I can. To me, that’s what freedom and success really feel like. I love money, but having that freedom and flexibility feels more important to me than money. True, money can help you provide both of those things, and it has helped me provide both of those things but realizing that even if my business or doesn’t look like others, it doesn’t mean that I’m not cut out for it.
Go at your own pace. There’s no way that it doesn’t become a seven-figure business. There’s no way because if you keep showing up, if you keep providing value, if you keep connecting with your customers, if you keep providing a really good experience, things are going to work out. If you show up for yourself, if you believe in yourself, if you keep putting in the work, things are going to work out for you. If you’re serious about it, it’s going to work out.
5. Check-in with yourself regularly.
Check-in with yourself regularly and ask yourself: Am I happy? Is this bringing me joy? Does this add value to my life? Is this making my life better? Do I love myself?
With anything I do now, from my membership to my podcast to my clubhouse to anything I take on, I always ask myself: How do I feel? How does this make me feel? If something doesn’t make me feel excited or bring me joy, I’m not gonna do it.
There’s a difference between being scared and being excited and something not bringing you joy. If something doesn’t make you happy, if something doesn’t excite you, give yourself permission to let it go.
I am a firm believer in the path of least resistance. So if you’re really resistant to something, asking yourself why you are resisting. Am I procrastinating or do I not want to do this? Give yourself permission to not have to do everything because your business does not have to look like everyone else’s.
