As we’re approaching the holidays, do you find yourself thinking about the upcoming new year’s goals? We all know the life cycle of the typical New Year’s resolutions — start off with a bang, make progress for a few days and then fall out of sync by February.
Perhaps at this point, you’ll make a few more floundering attempts before finally giving up and deciding, “New Year’s Resolutions don’t work!”
In working with a client recently, we uncovered how she has a pattern of giving up on her goals and dreams. She gets going and then unconsciously takes herself out of the game. This is a form of self-sabotage. And once there is a pattern of “failure,” it’s all too easy to assume that failure is a given. We develop an expectation of failure on future attempts.
How can we make progress if, unconsciously, we believe we’re going to fail?
I believe that dreams come to us (not the other way around), and they won’t let go until we start taking deliberate action. These dreams may not reveal themselves all at once, but once a dream has lit your fire, it will keep tugging at you until you do something about it.
Don’t think that your dreams are going to give up on you. They know better!
Why do we turn away from our dreams?
We think it will be too hard or the outcome won’t be worth the effort. Maybe you’ve attempted things in the past that have flopped. Perhaps you’ve offered a product or service and gotten back a big, fat “No thanks,” or worse, heard crickets during your last launch.
I’ve been there, so I get it. I had a dream of helping people on their personal development journey for years, but I believed I didn’t have enough to offer, so while I toyed with the idea, I didn’t do anything about it because it was scary as hell.
But still, my dream kept me up at night. It was calling me.
I finally picked up the call.
Eventually, by aligning my conscious mind, unconscious mind, and higher conscious mind, my self-talk turned from “Can I do this?” to “How can I do this?” It was no longer a question of if but how.
And that’s a game-changer perspective, my friend, because it turns “failure” into feedback and progress. Following my dream became a journey of self-development and learning. The buttercream icing on the red velvet cake is that my business became really successful.
I’m doing what lights my fire and getting paid for it.
It’s worth it to nurture your dreams. They will, in turn, feed you and give you purpose and meaning.
